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to the anon: rape is never your fault. honestly. its normal to feel like that, but you didnt ask for it. trust me. it 110% wasnt your fault. you can talk to me if you'd like, just vent. ill be there for you. stay strong please. you didnt deserve it xx
I just want to say thank you for all your help. (I'm the girl that was told by her best friend, who is a jerk, that the rape is my fault.) I feel a lot better now. Thanks for taking the time to listen to me. I love you. <3
I’m really glad we could help ♥ —C
To that one anon: Rape is NEVER the victim's fault. You were forced to do something you didn't want to do, which would be the assailant's fault, not yours.
I have BPD and I was date-raped by my ex quite a few times between the ages of 15 and 17. I was gaslighted by my school guidance counselor and told I was exaggerating because I was diagnosed with borderline emergent at 15. It took me until I was 19 to realize, it was rape, and it wasn't my fault. You all can do this. x
To the person who thinks rape is their fault: No it is not your fault and anyone that tells you it is are so fucking oignrant, I could rip their fucking head off. No one, and I mean no one has the right to violate someone else, no one has the right to force someone into something they have said no to or do not want. Rape is not your fault, you are the victim. Please do not think its your fault. I was raped and thought the same way. But it truly is not. Stay strong <3
Even though you say rape isn't the victims fault, i full-heartedly believe it is my fault.
That’s how a lot — probably most — of rape victims feel. That’s what our society pushes them towards believing. Hell, we have people in government who still say things like that. I think the best thing to do is to talk to someone professional who can help you work through it and realize that it is in no way your fault. It is entirely the fault of the rapist who chose to hurt you. ♥ —C
To that anon: Rape is NEVER asked for. It's the rapist's fault, not yours. Please don't think that way. You might feel dirty or ashamed for being raped, and these feelings are common, but it was NOT your fault.
I just had my heart broken by my 'boyfriend' so I texted my bestfriend looking for advice. I told him what happened. He told me that if I wasn't a whore and didn't dress like a hooker, it'd be fine. I have only slept with 3 guys and wear jeans and a sweatshirt everyday. Then he said that if my boobs were smaller, I wouldn't have been raped. I just want to slit my wrist. I know it's my fault. I didn't need a reminder.
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With that being said:
None of this is by any means your fault. Rape has nothing to do with how you dress or act or what your body looks like; it’s about power and control. It’s not about sex or how much skin you’re showing or that you’re “asking for it” because it’s not about being sexually attracted to someone. It’s just about hurting and violating them. Even if you’d slept with 100 guys and dressed like a stripper, it wouldn’t be your fault; it would be the rapist’s fault. It will always be the rapist’s fault. We live in a misogynistic society of slut-shaming and victim-blaming that excuses rapists and silences rape victims. None of this is your fault and I’m sorry that you have people in your life telling you differently. Please talk to a professional who can help you work through this ♥ I hope you can find better people in your life. —C
These anons... Be strong. Love yourself. But oh my gosh I have to unfollow. Please respect that. There are just too many in my dash. Text or IM each other. My heart goes out to you anon. Don't be afraid to talk to someone and let them know who you are. That could help you.
I’m sorry there usually aren’t so many and I feel bad because I’m trying to get through all of them and the just.keep.coming.